“Your shoes are beside the door.”
← All situationsDECLARATIVE LANGUAGE / EVERYDAY MOMENTSDeclarative language for
Declarative language for
shoes on and out the door.
PDA communication examples for this moment. Use only statements that are true, and offers you can follow through on.
A DIRECT INSTRUCTION “Put your shoes on.”
All 8 examples are shown. Save any you want to keep.
“The bag is packed for our trip.”
“I’m putting my keys in my pocket.”
“I’m putting the picture of where we’re going on the table.”
“I can carry your bag today.”
“I’m here. We can work out the next step together.”
“I wonder if the rain has stopped yet.”
A thought to share, with no answer expected. Skip it if it feels like a hint.“We’re aiming to leave around ten, and there’s some wiggle room.”
Only if there really is time. Be clear about any limits.Look beyond the words.
A change in wording cannot fix an inaccessible destination, pain, or too little time.
Use the person’s preferred communication. A clearer request can be more helpful than an indirect hint.
What to notice next
Consider what was happening before the difficult moment, what your child communicated, and what changed afterwards. One easier occasion does not prove a strategy caused the change.
TAKE IT INTO THE NEXT CONVERSATIONMake a note for school
Choose phrases for my brief ↗Make a note for school
or your next appointment.
Save the phrases you want to keep. Then choose up to two for “Phrases we’re trying” on your brief.
A FREE FIRST EDITIONMake a small plan
Try the free program ↗Make a small plan
for leaving home.
Six short parts, a planning sheet, and private feedback after you try it.