How we choose the words.
Porchlight helps families and adults put experiences into words.
Communication, not compliance
Our declarative-language examples share information, describe an action, or offer help. They are original scripts informed by communication guidance, not a validated treatment. Removing a question mark does not guarantee less pressure. Some people prefer direct language; safety instructions need to remain clear.
Use an example only when it is true. A real offer allows the person to decline. If changing the wording does not help, look at the task, the environment, comfort, and the support available.
What informs the examples
- PDA Society and Linda K. Murphy: declarative-language teaching — practical guidance, not evidence validating this tool.
- Linda K. Murphy’s Declarative Language Handbook resources — communication and relationship principles.
- NICE autism guidance — context, communication, physical needs, and individualized support.
Understanding PDA
The evidence base and classification remain debated. A 2026 diagnostic systematic review reported major methodological limitations. That uncertainty does not make a person’s distress or support needs less real.
Read the 2026 diagnostic review ↗ · Child questionnaire context · Adult research context
How content is maintained
The examples were prepared with AI assistance and checked for wording, context, and consistency with the sources above. These editorial checks were automated; they are not independent clinical review or evidence that a phrase will help a particular person. We publish them as educational examples, and welcome corrections through our contact page. No one reviews a visitor’s individual answers through this website.
What we need to learn
Whether people find language they can use, whether it respects their preferences, and whether their next conversation is more useful. Clicks and time on a page do not establish clinical benefit.